living our best life – you

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Today’s question is short and sweet,What is one thing that you have learned about yourself since you have become chronically ill?”

 

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soar above

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Don’t allow your body to physically trap your mind

Your body may hold you back at times but that does not mean your mind must stay in the cage

Allow your thoughts to go free

Free to soar above the pain, confusion, and fear

Free to see yourself from an unanchored perspective

Where the beauty is abundant

The Chronic Pain Manual – book review

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I happy to be bringing you my review of, The Chronic Pain Manual – The really, real manual to pain by Nikki Albert.  This is my third in a series of six reviews I am doing to promote authors who live with chronic illnesses.  You can checkout my first review here and my second one  here.

I have start off this review with a confession.  I had a draft almost ready to go but decided to trash it and start over.  Why would I throw away a perfectly good post; because of all the craziness going on in the world at this moment.

Those of us living with chronic illnesses are on edge, worried about how this is going to affect those of us who are most vulnerable.  We NEED to take time to distract ourselves  from the constant bombardment of bad news.  There is no better way to combat anxiety  then with humor,  and Nikki serves it up in this book that can be delivered straight to your door!  What makes her book so refreshing is that it is written by someone who lives this life and therefore can relate on every level.  This manual not only makes fun of all the ridiculousness that surrounds chronic pain, bringing you laugh out loud moments, but also the sense of feeling understood, and this is a beautiful combination.

What made reading her book so ironic is that I finished it while in a 140 degree sauna, roasting my backside off, dripping in sweat, and feeling nauseous,  because hey, I have been told it was good for me………..(if you read the book, you will get the irony).

So, take a moment to check out her book on Amazon and if you can’t afford to purchase it, please ask your library to do so.  This book will not disappoint those who live the life of chronic illness, and for those who don’t, it will give you a glimpse into what it is like to walk this path.

Now please head over for a visit with Nikki in her neck-of-the-woods at Brainless Blogger.  Thank you.

  • This book was purchased from Amazon using my own funds.

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books and they can be viewed here

fear

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fear

seeps into your mind like an early morning fog,

slowly expanding into all the open trenches

unfilled spaces

finding places in the mind you didn’t know existed

enlarging to leave no room for productive thoughts

protecting its position like a vicious dog guarding it’s home

settling in like the dust in the carpet

seemingly unnoticed and determined to anchor down for the long haul

 

I am ready to clean house

sweeping it out, not under the rug

searching for all the hiding places

wanting to turn this into a childhood game i no longer want to play

i will find you

searching, one-by-one, the hidden rooms of my mind,

evicting the fear and pain

refilling the room with light and love and hope

 

slamming the door shut with a vengence

securing the deadbolt and allowing the love to expand to fill each and every room.

 

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soar

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Shatter the cage your body imprisons your mind with

Allow your spirit to remain free

To soar above the pain,

chaos

and

confusion

fear

and

uncertainty

Instead observe the magnificent beauty that surrounds you

Hidden by your perceived reality

 

~ wendi is the author of two books, which can be viewed here

 

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the storm

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i stand outside as the storm begins to rage

the thunder rolls in sending animals scattering,

yet i don’t move,

lightening strikes,

shaking the earth under my feet,

my body quakes with fear as the world around me appears to shatter into pieces,

strikes hits too close leaving me cowering in a heap,

 

can i within stand the storm,

can i endure the constant barrage of raging winds and ravishing rains that beat at my body……..

no place to run,

no place to hide,

not only from the storm but from myself.

i am soaked to the bone,

cold to the touch,

immense fear engulfs my mind

is shelter worth searching for,

my soul cries out for comfort,

yet, do i need saving?

 

 

~ wendi is the author of two books, you can view them here.

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isolation

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Synonym Discussion of isolation

solitudeisolationseclusion mean the state of one who is alone. solitude may imply a condition of being apart from all human beings or of being cut off by wish or circumstances from one’s usual associates.

    • a few quiet hours of solitude

isolation stresses detachment from others often involuntarily.

    • the isolation of the village in winter

seclusion suggests a shutting away or keeping apart from others often connoting deliberate withdrawal from the world or retirement to a quiet life.

    • lived in pastoral seclusion

 

ISOLATION this is such a sad and lonely word, just pushing the sounds across your tongue sounds just……….blah.

ISOLATION is what the prison system uses to further punish those who misbehave while behind bars.  It is meant to break people so they never want to do another bad thing.

Many individuals with chronic illness are living isolated lives.  Isolation leads to even more unwanted side effects or exaggeration of current symptoms such as depression, anxiety, worry, loneliness and pain.

No one wants to feel lonely and too many people are scared to admit they feel alone because, simply put, in today’s world, it equals loser, or worse yet, unlovable.  Obviously this is not true, but those feelings are there none-the-less.

Being chronically ill, we have already lost so much……..previous abilities to do what we loved, stamina, a good night sleep, to interact with our surrounding in a immediate and prompt way……adding loneliness into the mix is a huge slap in the face, fuel to the fire.

This world (at least here in the US) is fixated on the health, youth, independence, wealth, and “beauty” at all costs and people do not take time to slow down and go and visit a friend who is ill, let alone even know who their neighbors are…………so what can we do about this?

…….PLEASE, if you know someone in your neck of the woods who is alone, sick, lonely, can’t get out and interact with the world on a regular basis, please take 1 hour out of  the next 30 days and do something about it.  This simple act of kindness, multiplied by many, sends love where it needs to be, with those who can use it the most.  If you are personally unable to get out of your home, send a card or a letter to someone else who is in a similar situation.  Emails are nice and texts can be great too, but taking the time to send a personal note shows you took an extra step out of your day and thought of them in a very real way.  Now please go……………

 

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~ wendi is the author of two books, you can view them here.

drums

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the drums are beating…………i hear them from afar and they draw me in.

as i walk i try to hide myself from its pull

the beats, like my heart, give life to all that is around it

i creep closer……….the drum is under the open sky

i search for people………no one is there,

the drum is beating on its own

calling out to those who need to hear it, it draws us in……….

people begin encircling the drum from all directions- walking out of the darkness

searching for their own beating heart

 

 

what if?

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what if there was no sadness?

what if there was no pain?

what if there was no sorrow?

what if there was no illness?

what if there were no struggles?

what if there was no evil?

what if there was no hunger?

 

what would all of that mean?

 

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