more of the good

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Like so many other people on this small planet, I take the beginning of a new year to set out goals that I hope to accomplish over the next year.  I have a lot of them, eat healthier, move my body more, spend more time in nature, save more money, pay down debt, read more books, spend more time with God and go on more dates with my husband.  As I was mulling over what it is I would like to accomplish this year, I realized that I really just need to spend more time doing the good stuff and less time doing the bad stuff.  Yep, that about sums it up!

Wishing all of you a very blessed New Year!  May you reach your goals………

 

 

 

~ wendi, under the pen name Charlie, is the author of Frugal Seeds: 501 Ways to Make, Save, or Stretch a Dollar

rain

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a late summer storm

the rain pours down from the gray sky………..

drenching the soil surrounding me……

yet I stand in the middle of the storm, untouched

no refreshing rain reaches me,

will I ever feel its refreshing quench?

 

 

do i have to believe you?

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when you tell me i am ill, do i have to believe you?

is is possible that you are wrong?  i know i have the symptoms, the tests that that show something is wrong…………but, do i really have to believe you?

i don’t want to be ill, i don’t want to feel this way…………

you tell me what is going to happen with this illness………….do i have to believe you?

do you really know what is best for me?

do you realize that you are not in control?  you are not God?  you only know what you read in a book…..or experience with others……they are not me…………you don’t even know me……………and i have read way more than you………….i know more about our physical capabilities, the human spirit, spiritual healing, the power of love, thoughts, movement, meditation……….miracles still happen……..

the power of belief is an astonishing  thing……………..i choose not to believe you.  so please stop talking……………stop being so negative………..i need a cheerleader not a soothsayer!

……..and I choose not to believe you…….

…..and to believe what I see as the truth…………

 

 

The ‘Inside My Head’ tag……my responses

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I received this tag by the very helpful, kind, happy and positive blogger Ana from  momlifewithchiari .  She writes about what it is like to raise a family of 8 while living with a difficult chronic illness of Chiari……….something I share with Ana.  She blogs about home, life, faith, crafts and kids.  Please take a moment to check her out and you will be as inspired as I am with her life.

 

Rules:

° Thank & tag the person that has tagged you

° Attach the tag photo

° Answer the ‘This or That’ questions

° Tag 10-20 friends

 

Here we go:  a little about me……………..

° How do you feel at the moment?

At this very moment I am thankful that I have a loving family, a roof over my head, clothes to wear, food to eat, and transportation.  So many people in this world do not have such luxuries.

 

° What do you need more in my life?

I need more health in every inch of my body and I would appreciate a little more calm too.

 

° What would make you happy right now?

A venti unsweetened, green iced tea from Starbucks……….and world peace.

 

° What is going on in your life right now?

I am working hard to assist and encourage my kiddos in wrapping up this school year and planning for next school year has already begun.

Praying for my husband’s side business of doing voice work.

Working hard everyday at being as healthy as I can, despite my situation.

 

° What am I most grateful for? List 10 things.

  1.  God –  who else could possibly handle the constant chatting, asking, begging, crying and thanking I do during the day………and night.
  2.   My Husband – He is my rock.  I am so blessed.
  3.   My kids – I hit the jackpot.
  4.   My sister – always has an uplifting text to send me or comment to say
  5.   My friends – there may not be tons of them but the ones – have stuck with me.
  6.   My dog – she is happy to be with me whether I am lying in bed or taking her for a walk.
  7.   This blog – it has given me confidence that I didn’t know exsisted and you fellow bloggers just rock!
  8.   My chickens – they can make me smile just by watching their funny antics.
  9.   I can see to read – this is how I have learned so many amazing things.
  10.   I can walk – I never want to take this for granted.

 

° When did you experience joy this week? 

Listening to my girls practicing for a musical they are in next month.

 

° List a small victory/success?

I did some yard work yesterday.  Yep, raked leaves……….two seasons late, but I did it!

 

° What is bothering me & Why?

I can’t seem to get a handle on slowing down the progression of some of my illnesses…………I believe that it can be done, I just haven’t discovered it YET!

 

° What are my priorities at the moment?

My kids education, my husband’s new adventure, my families health, my health and researching ways to heal.

 

° What do I love about myself?

I am a compassionate person,  my heart aches for people who are hurting.

I appreciate the small things in life.

I like to laugh, despite the pain it causes my head.

I like those around me to feel happiness too.

 

° Who means the world to me & why?

My family.  I can’t imagine life without them.

 

° If I could share one message with the world, what would it be?

Be nice………..you have NO IDEA what other people are going through.

Be generous……….there are SO many needs in this world.

 

° What advice would I give my younger self? 

Be kind to yourself, life goes by so fast.  Eat lots of vegetables and fruit, drink water, exercise, save money and laugh a lot.

 

° What lesson did I learn this week? 

Life goes on…………

 

° If I had all the time in the world, what would I do first?

I would learn to speak Cherokee.

 

° What’s draining my energy?

Waking every day ill………..some days are tougher than others.

 

° What does my ideal morning look like?

Ideal…..so I am going to dream here…..I wake at 8 am, go for a 5 mile hike through the mountains behind my house with my family and our dog.  Walk through the door and have the energy to make a nutritious breakfast including a detox smoothie for everyone and and then we all sit down and enjoy  listening to each other read from a classic novel.

So……in order for this to happen, first step would be to move to the mountains and oh yeah……..and get healthy!

 

° What does my ideal day look like?

Well, since we are speaking ideal here………….I begin where the last response left off.  After reading for the rest of the morning we would prepare a healthy lunch, all go off to  work our jobs of choice, in which we all find enjoyable and fulfilling and then meet up for dinner around 6:30 pm.  Enjoy a healthy meal and bask in the fact that since this is ideal we are all free from pain and ailments.  After dinner everyone participates in their activities of choice.

   

What makes me come alive?

laughter, a windy day, a forest, rolling hills, a sunset, walking on the beach, trees in autumn, an apple orchard, a huge farmers’ market, my families voices

 

° What/Who inspires me the most?

Mr. Fred Rogers……….a man who had a gift from God to be able to make everyone feel special.  He left an impression on everyone he met because he was genuinely interested in what people had to say and who they were.  He saw value in every human life………..now that is someone I aspire to be like.

 

° Where does my pain originate?

Great question……………….so many places, so many illnesses………..could be anywhere and everywhere.

 

° What are my strengths?

I haven’t given up on my dream of healing.

I work hard to see joy in the small things of life.

I enjoy encouraging others in their walk through life’s journey.

I like to smile.

I am good at letting material possessions go.

 

° What is something I’ve always wanted but too scared to get?

A tattoo……………not sure of what but something I have always been afraid to do.

 

° What is something I would love to learn?

Fencing or belly dancing……….they both sound super fun.

 

° Where would I want to live my ideal life?

A cabin in the woods,  a chateau in the mountains, a bungalow on the beach.  Anything small and easy to take care of with beautiful scenery and amazing places to walk.

 

Where would you like to travel in the next 5 years?

I would love to take a road trip across the country, so much of the country I haven’t seen yet.

Belize, Italy, Greece, India………..I would love to see these countries.

 

° What can I do to take better care of myself?

I am going to go grain free and see if this helps me heal.

 

° What hobbies would I like to try?

Race car driving………

 

° When have I done something that I thought I couldn’t do?

Raising my kids while all of us are chronically ill.

 

° At the end of my life, what do I want my legacy to be?

That other peoples lives were enriched because I was part of it.

 

My nominees: 

Here are my 10 nominees………..I hope you guys are cool with being nominated, if not, that is o.k. too……..just pretend you didn’t get my link!

rawthoughtshealing

lawrenceilloc

chronicpainwithahigherperspective

fightmsdaily

livingfaithfullywithautoimmunedisease

artwithchronicdiseaseandmentalillness

dinosaursdonkeysandms

reclaiminghope

MSichChronicles

Yarn,books&roses

 

quotes to inspire you to take care of yourself!

 

 

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It is important for everyone to take good care of him/herself.  But for those of us with chronic illnesses, it is vitally important.  Our days can be are filled with pain, discomfort, anxiety, loneliness, sadness, brain fog, confusion, appointments, and the fear of the unknown.  It is a lot for one person to handle and because of this, self-care is something that needs to be high on every CI persons’ list.

Please take a moment to read the quotes below.  It is my hope that they inspire you to make yourself a priority and encourage you to go do something nice for yourself!

 

“Self-care is how you take your power back.”

–  Lalah Delia

 

“Take time to do what makes your soul happy.”

–  Unknown

 

“When the well is dry, we know the worth of water.”

–  Benjamin Franklin

 

“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”

–  Unknown

 

“Sometimes the most important thing in the whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.”

–  Etty Hillesum

 

“If compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

–  Jack Kornfield

 

“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”

–  Christopher Germer

 

“How do you define taking care of yourself?  Create a new self-care practice today.  Observe your comfort level when it comes to being good to yourself.  Discomfort is a wise teacher.”

–  Caroline Myss & Peter Occhiogrosso

 

“Love yourself enough to set boundaries.  Your time and energy are precious.  You get to choose how to use it.  You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.

–  Anna Taylor

 

“A merry heart doeth good like medicine:  but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”

–  KJV Proverbs 17:22

 

“Self-care is not selfish.  You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”

–  Eleanor Brown

 

“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile as sin, as self-neglecting.”

–  William Shakespeare

 

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority.  It’s necessary.”

–  Mandy Hale

 

“When we give ourselves compassion, we are opening our hearts in a way that can transform our lives.”

–  Kristin Neff

 

“Self love is asking yourself what you need – everyday – and then making sure you receive it.”

–  Unknown

 

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy.  This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits.”

–  Kim McMillen

 

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”

–  Jean Shinoda Bolen

 

“Self-care is how you take your power back.”

–  Lolah Delia

 

“Get rid of the weeds and foster the flowers.”

–  Charlotte Mason

 

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.”

–  Mahatma Gandhi

 

“Happiness is the highest form of health.”

–  Dalai Lama

 

“Self-care is taking care of yourself in a tender, loving way every single day.  Self-care is making sure you get what you need every day to thrive.”

–  Amy Kurtz

 

“You are worth every moment you spend taking care of yourself.”

–  simplywendi

 

Hopefully one of the quotes has inspired you to look for ways to be good to yourself every day!

When I find a saying that speaks to me, I like to write it down on an index card and place it in a location where I will see it often, like at my kitchen window.  Who doesn’t need daily inspiration?

……….Until next time, YOU are a superhero and superheros need to take care great of themselves!

 

 

 

 

 

A picture is worth a 1,000 words.

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…..or maybe just a hundred or so.

Although this post has little to do with living simply with chronic illness, I wanted to write down why I chose the picture I did as the “theme” for this blog.  Yes, the picture was one of the free choices, but once I saw the photo I knew it was perfect.

In my imagination the picture creates an image of  a small farm in the late fall with a barn standing proudly next to the beautifully sunlit apple orchard.  The barn made me think of me, weather beaten, worn, tired and working hard to remain standing against all that mother nature continues to throw at me.  I look functional and I still have an important job to do but the outside looks so much stronger than what in going on inside.

The trees represent those of us with chronic illness standing so alone, yet gathered together for a common purpose.  We are bare and vulnerable to the elements without the covering of leaves and fruit and the health that others take so much for granted.  We were once bursting with the fullness of life, just like the trees in the spring and summer, but now it is autumn, with the hope that spring will come again.

It is dawn and with it comes the promise of a new day.  Each new day gives us a fresh start  with endless possibilities and hopes of a miracle.  Maybe, just maybe, this day will bring a miracle for you and for me.  Here is to new days, hopes, and dreams that just may come true.