living our best life – a hundred bucks

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Over the past several weeks I have read about ways that this global situation has brought out the very best and the very worst in people.  But it is comforting to know that all of you amazingly kind, loving, and generous people here on WP go out of your way to help others as you are able.

So my question for you this week is, “If you were given $100, or the equivalent, and you had to give it away, what would you do with it?”

I look forward to reading your awesome responses, and I thank you in advance for your comments.

 

` “You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”
― John Bunyan

Would you like a letter?

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As many of us around the world are in isolation, it feels very surreal to me.  Even though I spend more time at home then most people, it still feels odd not to be able to freely move around my little neck-of-the-woods when I am able.

Thank goodness for the ability to connect with others through our beloved wifi.  It is such a blessing to still feel close to those we are not able to spend time with.

But, I have to admit, I have always enjoyed receiving a real letter in the mail.  There is something special knowing that someone took the time and energy to sit down and write out a note just for you.

So, if you feel this way too, please let me know.  I would be thrilled to send you a letter, even if you live on the other side of the world.  I don’t want people feeling isolated from real contact.  I know a letter is not real contact but I feel it is a bit more personal than a text or a response on a post.

Please do NOT leave your address in the comment section but instead send me a message through my contact page.  If you do not hear back from me in 48 hours, I did not receive you message and please try again.

Please know I care about each and everyone of you.

The Chronic Pain Manual – book review

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I happy to be bringing you my review of, The Chronic Pain Manual – The really, real manual to pain by Nikki Albert.  This is my third in a series of six reviews I am doing to promote authors who live with chronic illnesses.  You can checkout my first review here and my second one  here.

I have start off this review with a confession.  I had a draft almost ready to go but decided to trash it and start over.  Why would I throw away a perfectly good post; because of all the craziness going on in the world at this moment.

Those of us living with chronic illnesses are on edge, worried about how this is going to affect those of us who are most vulnerable.  We NEED to take time to distract ourselves  from the constant bombardment of bad news.  There is no better way to combat anxiety  then with humor,  and Nikki serves it up in this book that can be delivered straight to your door!  What makes her book so refreshing is that it is written by someone who lives this life and therefore can relate on every level.  This manual not only makes fun of all the ridiculousness that surrounds chronic pain, bringing you laugh out loud moments, but also the sense of feeling understood, and this is a beautiful combination.

What made reading her book so ironic is that I finished it while in a 140 degree sauna, roasting my backside off, dripping in sweat, and feeling nauseous,  because hey, I have been told it was good for me………..(if you read the book, you will get the irony).

So, take a moment to check out her book on Amazon and if you can’t afford to purchase it, please ask your library to do so.  This book will not disappoint those who live the life of chronic illness, and for those who don’t, it will give you a glimpse into what it is like to walk this path.

Now please head over for a visit with Nikki in her neck-of-the-woods at Brainless Blogger.  Thank you.

  • This book was purchased from Amazon using my own funds.

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books and they can be viewed here

living our best life – today

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With all the stressful things going on around the world, it takes a huge toll on our minds and therefore our bodies.  Those of us who live with chronic illnesses have very legitimate reasons to be concerned.  But instead on dwelling on the scary, we are going to focus on one postive thing we can do today to bring about contentment, joy, relaxation, or any feeling that is the opposite from the ball of stress you may have rolling around inside you.

So, my question for today is, “What is one thing you can do this very day to allow yourself to feel at ease in the world, even for a little while?”

 

~ I am praying for every single one of you beautifully amazing people, now go be amazing, even if it is from the four walls of your room.  

“Peace is always beautiful.” —Walt Whitman

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living our best life – worry

 

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Worrying is such a awfully powerful emotion.  Many of us within the chronic illness community live daily with a heap of things to worry about.  Our health, our finances, our family’s health, a new symptom, our new normal, fear of losing more, the state of the world, decisions on treatments, how to manage all that is required of us, and on many days, how and the heck we are just going to make it until we get to go to bed again.

It sucks.  It is not good for our bodies, minds or souls to experience continuous worry and anxiety with only brief moments of quiet and calm.  Even if you do not live with constant worry, it has a ability to sneek up on you when you least expect it.  You may be living in the moment, consumed with what appears to be happy thoughts and BOOM, you are hit so intensely that you feel as it any moment the anxiety is literally going to take over every cell in your body and bring you to your knees.

I know we all strive to live a worry free life, to be set free from our own thoughts, to be able to live outside of our deeply wired beliefs and messages.  It’s hard, especially if you have been living this way for a long time.

So my question for you this week is, “What do you do to refocus your thoughts toward peaceful and calming energy, and removing worry from your mind?”

 

*This post, nor comments within the post, should be taken as medical advice.  We are just people providing suggestions to help each other live our best life possible.    

One Man’s Strange Supernatural Life – a book review

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Welcome, I am so happy you are here today!  This is my second of six book reviews that I will be doing this year highlighting authors who live with chronic illness.  My first review can be seen here

I want to make a quick comment as to why I am doing these reviews.  Individuals who live with chronic illness not only struggle physically, mentally, and many also spiritually, but financially.  There is never enough money for all that is required: tests, medicine, supplements, and treatments, and finances add another burden onto an already stressful life.  It is my goal to showcase authors and to hopefully have others go out and purchase these books.

Ryan is a chronically ill warrior who blogs over at Ryan Callahan’s Blog and his book, One Man’s Very Strange Supernatural Life was purchased from Amazon with my own funds.

Upon receiving this book I noticed that is a great size to easily hold in your hand.  I was able to read the print size, and without pictures, there were no distractions from the text.  The cover of the book is pleasant to view with the colors and photo being easy on the eyes and calming.

Ryan’s book is a personal testimony on how and why he became a Christian.  I have to admit, I have read testimonies before and although many of them are profound and encouraging, a run-of-the-mill testimony is not what you will receive when you read Ryan’s book.  He has gone out on a limb and discusses experiences that many people could easily dismiss as crazy.  Ryan’s story drew me in within the first few pages and I did not put the book down until it ended.

His book is a quick and easy read as I was able to finish the story in under an hour and a half.  Ryan left me thinking about all he was willing to share in order to show others his truth.  For me, I was struck by his honesty.  It felt as if he was speaking directly to me and we were having a deep conversation about his faith.  For those of you who are not Christians, you will still find his faith journey compelling and interesting.  This book can purchased from Amazon and read free with KindleUnlimited.

I am also sending my copy of Ryan’s book to a lucky winner here in the United States.  To win this book, please leave a comment regarding your desire to win the book.  A winner will be chosen at random on 3/6/20 and will be shipped via USPS media mail.

 

 

 

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books that can be viewed here.

living our best life – spending money

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Being chronically ill, I tend to worry about money a lot.  I try hard to win over the anxiety by reminding myself that God will work it all out and worrying about it does absolutely no good.  To also help combat my fear of not having enough money, I live a frugal lifestyle.  I make sure my family lives on less and with less in most areas of our lives.

But instead of focusing on what we live without, we can always talk about that later, today’s question focuses on what we do spend money on.   There are psychological benefits to spending money on yourself, even if it is just a little bit, for a pick-me-up.

So, the question this week is:  What is one thing you regularly spend money on that brings joy into your life?  

living our best life possible – JUST SAY IT!

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Through all the years I have lived with chronic illnesses, I have felt the pressure to say that I was ok, even when I absolutely was not.  These pressures may have come from my internal desire to be well, not wanting to admit that I was sick, or living, if only briefly, in a fantasy world of being normal.  Or it could be a result of societal pressures, of people not wanting to know the truth of illness, or hear about others’ problems because it is way more fun to listen to happy stories.  Maybe it was because I heard, “you don’t look sick” one too many times.  Maybe I was tired to hearing people tell me how so-and-so was cured from some new thing.  I am guessing it is a combination of reasons.

I have always felt looked down upon when I spoke the truth.  That I was being judged for being ill, that somehow it was my fault, and that I was not working hard enough at healing.  Whether or not this was true, it was how I felt, so it was my reality.

There are days I want to open my back door, step outside and scream, “This sucks ass!”  Yep, I just swore, trust me, God can handle my truth, even if others can’t.  Who am I expecting to hear this?  My chickens?  My neighbors?  No, just every single person I have ever lied to when I said I was ok.

So, is there something you have always wanted to say about your illness, but have been too afraid?  Something you have wanted to scream to the world, yourself, or others?  NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

Sometimes is takes us being very, very honest with ourselves and others before we can even have a snowball’s chance in hell to begin the very long road to healing. 

 

what would you do?

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I had another post ready to go for today, but after an unusual experience last night,  I wanted to share this instead.

Last evening, four of my family members were heading out to get some groceries.  About 20 minutes from home we hit a very large pothole that instantly blew out 2 tires on our van.  We were thankful it was very close to a church with a well-lit parking lot.

AAA was called and when the tow truck arrived there was not enough room for all of us to leave.  It was decided that my husband would leave with the driver and our van, and my two teenaged daughters and I would stay behind in the parking lot.

We felt blessed that it was above freezing and not raining or snowing.  We all had coats on, something that my teenagers do not always grab on the way out of the house, and there was a blanket in the van.

There were vehicles in the church lot but the building was big and we did not want to start knocking on doors and possibly scare the people inside.  Instead, we decided to just stand and wait.

As we waited under a large light in the front lot, people started to leave the church.  One vehicle after another drove slowly by looking at us, but no one stopped.  We did not look scary, it was a mom with two teenage daughters, all dressed appropriately, other than I had a blanket wrapped around me.  The lack of “hospitality” resulted in a very deep conversation between my daughters and I, something that I will keep between the three of us, but I was really hoping that the people leaving the church would have behaved differently.  Not just because it was a church, but because we were in the country, off a busy road, alone, after dark.

As the last vehicle was leaving, a mom and her teenaged daughter stopped to ask if we needed anything.  I thanked her profusely, explained the situation and reassured her that someone would eventually be back to pick us up.

So, what would you have done in that situation?  (NO judging)  Would you have stopped, or not, and why?

 

To Those Who Care For Others…..

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On the day that many associate with love, I would like to send a HUGE thank you to those of you who help care for others.  Chronic illness puts an enormous strain on relationships and too many people who are stricken are eventually abandoned to continue their fight on their own.  When I read about situations like these, it literally breaks my heart.  No one ever wants to rely on someone else to take care of them, but life has a way of putting us in situations that we do not deserve or desire.

So to all you caregivers out there, Thank You again for giving of yourself so unshelfishly, for staying, for loving, for listening, for assisting, for praying, for loving and for encouraging healing.  You have no idea what a huge blessing you are for those of us lucky enough to have you in our lives.

Te quiero me amor!