living our best life possible – words of wisdom

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In light of all that is going on in the world, I decided to change directions with my question of the week.  My heart and soul are craving uplifing words and I am sure I am not alone.

So, my question for all of you amazingly awesome people out there is, “What is one of your favorite quotes, sayings, verses, poems, or mantras that lifts your heart and mind when you are feeling overwhelmed?” 

 

~ Thank you so much for visiting and commenting,  please take care of yourself, and each other.  

living our best life – today

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With all the stressful things going on around the world, it takes a huge toll on our minds and therefore our bodies.  Those of us who live with chronic illnesses have very legitimate reasons to be concerned.  But instead on dwelling on the scary, we are going to focus on one postive thing we can do today to bring about contentment, joy, relaxation, or any feeling that is the opposite from the ball of stress you may have rolling around inside you.

So, my question for today is, “What is one thing you can do this very day to allow yourself to feel at ease in the world, even for a little while?”

 

~ I am praying for every single one of you beautifully amazing people, now go be amazing, even if it is from the four walls of your room.  

“Peace is always beautiful.” —Walt Whitman

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living our best life – worry

 

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Worrying is such a awfully powerful emotion.  Many of us within the chronic illness community live daily with a heap of things to worry about.  Our health, our finances, our family’s health, a new symptom, our new normal, fear of losing more, the state of the world, decisions on treatments, how to manage all that is required of us, and on many days, how and the heck we are just going to make it until we get to go to bed again.

It sucks.  It is not good for our bodies, minds or souls to experience continuous worry and anxiety with only brief moments of quiet and calm.  Even if you do not live with constant worry, it has a ability to sneek up on you when you least expect it.  You may be living in the moment, consumed with what appears to be happy thoughts and BOOM, you are hit so intensely that you feel as it any moment the anxiety is literally going to take over every cell in your body and bring you to your knees.

I know we all strive to live a worry free life, to be set free from our own thoughts, to be able to live outside of our deeply wired beliefs and messages.  It’s hard, especially if you have been living this way for a long time.

So my question for you this week is, “What do you do to refocus your thoughts toward peaceful and calming energy, and removing worry from your mind?”

 

*This post, nor comments within the post, should be taken as medical advice.  We are just people providing suggestions to help each other live our best life possible.    

living our best life – spending money

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Being chronically ill, I tend to worry about money a lot.  I try hard to win over the anxiety by reminding myself that God will work it all out and worrying about it does absolutely no good.  To also help combat my fear of not having enough money, I live a frugal lifestyle.  I make sure my family lives on less and with less in most areas of our lives.

But instead of focusing on what we live without, we can always talk about that later, today’s question focuses on what we do spend money on.   There are psychological benefits to spending money on yourself, even if it is just a little bit, for a pick-me-up.

So, the question this week is:  What is one thing you regularly spend money on that brings joy into your life?  

living our best life possible – JUST SAY IT!

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Through all the years I have lived with chronic illnesses, I have felt the pressure to say that I was ok, even when I absolutely was not.  These pressures may have come from my internal desire to be well, not wanting to admit that I was sick, or living, if only briefly, in a fantasy world of being normal.  Or it could be a result of societal pressures, of people not wanting to know the truth of illness, or hear about others’ problems because it is way more fun to listen to happy stories.  Maybe it was because I heard, “you don’t look sick” one too many times.  Maybe I was tired to hearing people tell me how so-and-so was cured from some new thing.  I am guessing it is a combination of reasons.

I have always felt looked down upon when I spoke the truth.  That I was being judged for being ill, that somehow it was my fault, and that I was not working hard enough at healing.  Whether or not this was true, it was how I felt, so it was my reality.

There are days I want to open my back door, step outside and scream, “This sucks ass!”  Yep, I just swore, trust me, God can handle my truth, even if others can’t.  Who am I expecting to hear this?  My chickens?  My neighbors?  No, just every single person I have ever lied to when I said I was ok.

So, is there something you have always wanted to say about your illness, but have been too afraid?  Something you have wanted to scream to the world, yourself, or others?  NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

Sometimes is takes us being very, very honest with ourselves and others before we can even have a snowball’s chance in hell to begin the very long road to healing. 

 

what would you do?

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I had another post ready to go for today, but after an unusual experience last night,  I wanted to share this instead.

Last evening, four of my family members were heading out to get some groceries.  About 20 minutes from home we hit a very large pothole that instantly blew out 2 tires on our van.  We were thankful it was very close to a church with a well-lit parking lot.

AAA was called and when the tow truck arrived there was not enough room for all of us to leave.  It was decided that my husband would leave with the driver and our van, and my two teenaged daughters and I would stay behind in the parking lot.

We felt blessed that it was above freezing and not raining or snowing.  We all had coats on, something that my teenagers do not always grab on the way out of the house, and there was a blanket in the van.

There were vehicles in the church lot but the building was big and we did not want to start knocking on doors and possibly scare the people inside.  Instead, we decided to just stand and wait.

As we waited under a large light in the front lot, people started to leave the church.  One vehicle after another drove slowly by looking at us, but no one stopped.  We did not look scary, it was a mom with two teenage daughters, all dressed appropriately, other than I had a blanket wrapped around me.  The lack of “hospitality” resulted in a very deep conversation between my daughters and I, something that I will keep between the three of us, but I was really hoping that the people leaving the church would have behaved differently.  Not just because it was a church, but because we were in the country, off a busy road, alone, after dark.

As the last vehicle was leaving, a mom and her teenaged daughter stopped to ask if we needed anything.  I thanked her profusely, explained the situation and reassured her that someone would eventually be back to pick us up.

So, what would you have done in that situation?  (NO judging)  Would you have stopped, or not, and why?

 

To Those Who Care For Others…..

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On the day that many associate with love, I would like to send a HUGE thank you to those of you who help care for others.  Chronic illness puts an enormous strain on relationships and too many people who are stricken are eventually abandoned to continue their fight on their own.  When I read about situations like these, it literally breaks my heart.  No one ever wants to rely on someone else to take care of them, but life has a way of putting us in situations that we do not deserve or desire.

So to all you caregivers out there, Thank You again for giving of yourself so unshelfishly, for staying, for loving, for listening, for assisting, for praying, for loving and for encouraging healing.  You have no idea what a huge blessing you are for those of us lucky enough to have you in our lives.

Te quiero me amor!  

The Shadow Boxers – a book review

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I am super excited to kick off my 2020 book review series with, The Shadow Boxers – Fighting Fibromyalgia – Your Personal Journey by Kim Johnson & Karen Anderson.  My goal is to review 6 books, all written by individuals living with chronic illness(es).  If you are an writer and would like me to review your book, at my cost, please send me a message.

The Shadow Boxers was purchased from Amazon using personal funds and the review is completely my own.

 

My initial impression of the book is that I really liked the size.  It is not too big or small and fit in my hands perfectly.  This may seem like an unusual observation but I have purchased books that were just too small for my hands to hold easily and therefore caused pain or too big and akward to hold, again causing discomfort.  The print is also a good size, making the words easy to read.  Another bonus is the colors on the cover of the book are easy on the eyes creating another asthetic win.

Shadow Boxers covers all the basics of fibromyalgia, which I have to admit, although I thought I knew a lot about the illness, I still learned quite a bit.  The authors’ used not only their stories, but stories of others, allowing us to take a peek into the life of those who live with  fibromyalgia and how the illness can affect people in different ways.

But what I loved most about this book is that it is for you to write in.   You are an active part of the book, the main character, and with that honor it is imperative that you do your part.   Each chapter is followed by a one sentence prompt and it is a place for you to express your own thoughts and feelings, with enough space to write a rather lengthy commentary.

Although I did not write in the book, I did use the prompts to express my own thoughts and I found what I wrote to be quite insightful, I just substituted fibromyalgia for the main illness that I deal with.  Active participation is a MUST to get the most out of this book……..it is meant to be written in, to explore your own feelings, to express your frustrations and your inner most thoughts.  Once you have made your way through the book, it would be like having a productive counseling session and a whole lot cheaper.

Kim can be found blogging at I Tripped Over a Stone and I highly recommend you check her out………she is an amazing human being and force to be reckoned with!

 

living our best life – giving

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During the holiday season, we tend to spend time reflecting on upon our past.  There is something about the music, the lights, the gathering of friends and family and religous services that can send our minds straight back to when we were a child or those special moments shared with a significant other.

Despite the societal push to buy, buy, buy, when I think about past holidays I rarely remember the gifts, but instead the emotions I felt during the celebrations.

I have always found it much more enjoyable to give gifts and watch a person’s face light up as the package is unwrapped.  As the old saying goes, it is much better to give then to receive and I have always believed this to be true.

So my question for all you amazing people this week is, What gift have you given that still makes you smile when you think about it?  

Thank you for taking the time to comment…..

 

” I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all year.”

~ Charles Dicken, A Christmas Carol

 

Celebrating the Holy Days on a Budget

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“Creating the best memories requires no money.”

~ Charlie Lee Austin

 

It is that beautiful time of year again when we celebrate Advent, the time we prepare our hearts and minds for the birth of Jesus.

Raising a family of 6 on a budget, I understand the stress that Christmas can create, a time when we feel the need to overdo everything, gifts, parties, meals, decorations…….but all of this costs money and can distract from the real reason of the season.

I have written a book that lists many of the ways my family has celebrated the hoidays while living on a tight budget –  Frugal Seeds 101 Ways to Celebrate the Holiday Season on a Budget.  It can be read FREE with KindleUnlimited and is available on Amazon in e-book and  paperback.

I would be humbled if you would take a moment to check it out, thank you.

 

~ Wishing all of you a very blessed Advent Season.

 

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