living our best life – today

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With all the stressful things going on around the world, it takes a huge toll on our minds and therefore our bodies.  Those of us who live with chronic illnesses have very legitimate reasons to be concerned.  But instead on dwelling on the scary, we are going to focus on one postive thing we can do today to bring about contentment, joy, relaxation, or any feeling that is the opposite from the ball of stress you may have rolling around inside you.

So, my question for today is, “What is one thing you can do this very day to allow yourself to feel at ease in the world, even for a little while?”

 

~ I am praying for every single one of you beautifully amazing people, now go be amazing, even if it is from the four walls of your room.  

“Peace is always beautiful.” —Walt Whitman

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living our best life – worry

 

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Worrying is such a awfully powerful emotion.  Many of us within the chronic illness community live daily with a heap of things to worry about.  Our health, our finances, our family’s health, a new symptom, our new normal, fear of losing more, the state of the world, decisions on treatments, how to manage all that is required of us, and on many days, how and the heck we are just going to make it until we get to go to bed again.

It sucks.  It is not good for our bodies, minds or souls to experience continuous worry and anxiety with only brief moments of quiet and calm.  Even if you do not live with constant worry, it has a ability to sneek up on you when you least expect it.  You may be living in the moment, consumed with what appears to be happy thoughts and BOOM, you are hit so intensely that you feel as it any moment the anxiety is literally going to take over every cell in your body and bring you to your knees.

I know we all strive to live a worry free life, to be set free from our own thoughts, to be able to live outside of our deeply wired beliefs and messages.  It’s hard, especially if you have been living this way for a long time.

So my question for you this week is, “What do you do to refocus your thoughts toward peaceful and calming energy, and removing worry from your mind?”

 

*This post, nor comments within the post, should be taken as medical advice.  We are just people providing suggestions to help each other live our best life possible.    

living our best life possible – JUST SAY IT!

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Through all the years I have lived with chronic illnesses, I have felt the pressure to say that I was ok, even when I absolutely was not.  These pressures may have come from my internal desire to be well, not wanting to admit that I was sick, or living, if only briefly, in a fantasy world of being normal.  Or it could be a result of societal pressures, of people not wanting to know the truth of illness, or hear about others’ problems because it is way more fun to listen to happy stories.  Maybe it was because I heard, “you don’t look sick” one too many times.  Maybe I was tired to hearing people tell me how so-and-so was cured from some new thing.  I am guessing it is a combination of reasons.

I have always felt looked down upon when I spoke the truth.  That I was being judged for being ill, that somehow it was my fault, and that I was not working hard enough at healing.  Whether or not this was true, it was how I felt, so it was my reality.

There are days I want to open my back door, step outside and scream, “This sucks ass!”  Yep, I just swore, trust me, God can handle my truth, even if others can’t.  Who am I expecting to hear this?  My chickens?  My neighbors?  No, just every single person I have ever lied to when I said I was ok.

So, is there something you have always wanted to say about your illness, but have been too afraid?  Something you have wanted to scream to the world, yourself, or others?  NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

Sometimes is takes us being very, very honest with ourselves and others before we can even have a snowball’s chance in hell to begin the very long road to healing. 

 

To Those Who Care For Others…..

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On the day that many associate with love, I would like to send a HUGE thank you to those of you who help care for others.  Chronic illness puts an enormous strain on relationships and too many people who are stricken are eventually abandoned to continue their fight on their own.  When I read about situations like these, it literally breaks my heart.  No one ever wants to rely on someone else to take care of them, but life has a way of putting us in situations that we do not deserve or desire.

So to all you caregivers out there, Thank You again for giving of yourself so unshelfishly, for staying, for loving, for listening, for assisting, for praying, for loving and for encouraging healing.  You have no idea what a huge blessing you are for those of us lucky enough to have you in our lives.

Te quiero me amor!  

living our best life – physical activity

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Welcome friends and thank you very much for stopping by today.  This week my question has to do with physical acitivity.  This is a tough area for many people with chronic illness since there are some that respond poorly to exercise.  No matter what  illness label you hold, fatigue is always a side effect making exercise something that takes a lot will power to overcome the desire to climb back into bed.

We read, watch, and are told that exercise is an important part of a healthy lifestyle which can lead to guilt and disappointment when we cannot participate in the physical activities that we were once able to enjoy.

So, this week’s question is, What physical movement do you participate in? 

Over the years I have been able to do as little as, yay! I walked up and down the stairs today or to the mailbox.  Currently I am able to take my dog on a short walk, walk in the park, get on the treadmill or exercise bike but have discovered that 30 minutes is about my limit or I pay for it the next day.

Please take a moment to share what works for you.  I am sure many of us are looking for new ways to move our bodies.  Thank you!

 

  • We are not providing any medical advice, only ideas of what works for us.

living our best life possible – organization

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Chronic illnesses tend to have a dreaded side affect of memory issues which can be  extremely frustrating.

Through the years, I have experimented with different approaches towards keeping myself organized and on track.  The ways have changed as the kids have grown,  but I have found that now they are in their busy stage of life, I must keep a very detailed  schedule.

At this time,  I use my cell phone and a wall calendar to keep track of daily appointments, celebrations, work schedules, really anywhere I need to be and when.  Then, I write out my daily to-do list on an index card so I can carry it with me throughout the day (if I don’t forget it, that is 🙂 )

Which leads me to this week’s questions, How do you keep yourself organized?

Please take a moment to share!  I deeply appreciate all of you who take the time to leave information in the comment section.  I have learned a lot from all of you and I am sure others have too!  Thank you.

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books and can be seen here.

living our best life possible – alternative medicine

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Welcome back my friends!  Thank you so very much for joining me again for our next question on living our best life possible.

The question this week is………what alternative medical treatment(s) or recommendations, if any, have given you positive results?

A traditional medical path has, up to this point, provided minimal relief from any of my chronic illnesses.  As a result, I have sought out more non-traditional and alternative medical professionals through this very long and winding path towards (hopefully) healing.  But, do to the high cost of alternative medicine, there are many paths that I have yet to explore – but hope to some day.

I have experienced benefits from various supplements, following a grain-free diet, meditation, walking when able, and seeing a medical massage therapist once on month to help with muscle and joint pain.

How about you?  Please share your experiences!

 

~ Please note – no one on here is providing medical advice, we are only sharing personal experiences that have helped us on our journey.

get out of my head

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i don’t want you here, living inside my head

questioning every decision,

every move I make,

putting useless worry into my mind,

creating chaos that cannot be calmed with relaxation or meditation

you want to destroy me

make me feel as if I cannot get better,  heal,  or live a happy life

 

i want to be lifted up

encouraged,

experience true peace,

 

so find a new place to reside

 

i am kicking you out

for good

 

wendi is the author of two books, you can view them here.

 

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shattered

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the delicate tea cups sit on a shelf

dreaming delightful thoughts of being filled

waiting upon the day to soak in their sweet promises

 

one by one, year after year

the cups crash unto the floor

shattering into hundreds of pieces

leaving an unrecognizable pattern on the floor

too tired and distraught to sweep up the fragments

a graveyard of wishes for me to mourn

 

the last cup sits upon the shelf

teetering

and all i can do is hold my breath

whispering a silent prayer that this one will remain.

 

 

~ wendi is the author of two books, you can view them here.

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part of me dies

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when i see you cry

a small part of me dies

i want to shelter you from every storm

create a world that is safe

for you to be free from pain

i want you to move through life as you please

independently with abundance of laughter and joy

but life is not always fair

bad things happen to extraordinary people

and despite my deepest desire and my fervent prayers

i can’t make it better

 

so when i see you cry

part of me dies…….

 

 

~ wendi is the author of two books, you can view them here.

 

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