living our best life – worry

 

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Worrying is such a awfully powerful emotion.  Many of us within the chronic illness community live daily with a heap of things to worry about.  Our health, our finances, our family’s health, a new symptom, our new normal, fear of losing more, the state of the world, decisions on treatments, how to manage all that is required of us, and on many days, how and the heck we are just going to make it until we get to go to bed again.

It sucks.  It is not good for our bodies, minds or souls to experience continuous worry and anxiety with only brief moments of quiet and calm.  Even if you do not live with constant worry, it has a ability to sneek up on you when you least expect it.  You may be living in the moment, consumed with what appears to be happy thoughts and BOOM, you are hit so intensely that you feel as it any moment the anxiety is literally going to take over every cell in your body and bring you to your knees.

I know we all strive to live a worry free life, to be set free from our own thoughts, to be able to live outside of our deeply wired beliefs and messages.  It’s hard, especially if you have been living this way for a long time.

So my question for you this week is, “What do you do to refocus your thoughts toward peaceful and calming energy, and removing worry from your mind?”

 

*This post, nor comments within the post, should be taken as medical advice.  We are just people providing suggestions to help each other live our best life possible.    

One Man’s Strange Supernatural Life – a book review

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Welcome, I am so happy you are here today!  This is my second of six book reviews that I will be doing this year highlighting authors who live with chronic illness.  My first review can be seen here

I want to make a quick comment as to why I am doing these reviews.  Individuals who live with chronic illness not only struggle physically, mentally, and many also spiritually, but financially.  There is never enough money for all that is required: tests, medicine, supplements, and treatments, and finances add another burden onto an already stressful life.  It is my goal to showcase authors and to hopefully have others go out and purchase these books.

Ryan is a chronically ill warrior who blogs over at Ryan Callahan’s Blog and his book, One Man’s Very Strange Supernatural Life was purchased from Amazon with my own funds.

Upon receiving this book I noticed that is a great size to easily hold in your hand.  I was able to read the print size, and without pictures, there were no distractions from the text.  The cover of the book is pleasant to view with the colors and photo being easy on the eyes and calming.

Ryan’s book is a personal testimony on how and why he became a Christian.  I have to admit, I have read testimonies before and although many of them are profound and encouraging, a run-of-the-mill testimony is not what you will receive when you read Ryan’s book.  He has gone out on a limb and discusses experiences that many people could easily dismiss as crazy.  Ryan’s story drew me in within the first few pages and I did not put the book down until it ended.

His book is a quick and easy read as I was able to finish the story in under an hour and a half.  Ryan left me thinking about all he was willing to share in order to show others his truth.  For me, I was struck by his honesty.  It felt as if he was speaking directly to me and we were having a deep conversation about his faith.  For those of you who are not Christians, you will still find his faith journey compelling and interesting.  This book can purchased from Amazon and read free with KindleUnlimited.

I am also sending my copy of Ryan’s book to a lucky winner here in the United States.  To win this book, please leave a comment regarding your desire to win the book.  A winner will be chosen at random on 3/6/20 and will be shipped via USPS media mail.

 

 

 

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books that can be viewed here.

what would you do?

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I had another post ready to go for today, but after an unusual experience last night,  I wanted to share this instead.

Last evening, four of my family members were heading out to get some groceries.  About 20 minutes from home we hit a very large pothole that instantly blew out 2 tires on our van.  We were thankful it was very close to a church with a well-lit parking lot.

AAA was called and when the tow truck arrived there was not enough room for all of us to leave.  It was decided that my husband would leave with the driver and our van, and my two teenaged daughters and I would stay behind in the parking lot.

We felt blessed that it was above freezing and not raining or snowing.  We all had coats on, something that my teenagers do not always grab on the way out of the house, and there was a blanket in the van.

There were vehicles in the church lot but the building was big and we did not want to start knocking on doors and possibly scare the people inside.  Instead, we decided to just stand and wait.

As we waited under a large light in the front lot, people started to leave the church.  One vehicle after another drove slowly by looking at us, but no one stopped.  We did not look scary, it was a mom with two teenage daughters, all dressed appropriately, other than I had a blanket wrapped around me.  The lack of “hospitality” resulted in a very deep conversation between my daughters and I, something that I will keep between the three of us, but I was really hoping that the people leaving the church would have behaved differently.  Not just because it was a church, but because we were in the country, off a busy road, alone, after dark.

As the last vehicle was leaving, a mom and her teenaged daughter stopped to ask if we needed anything.  I thanked her profusely, explained the situation and reassured her that someone would eventually be back to pick us up.

So, what would you have done in that situation?  (NO judging)  Would you have stopped, or not, and why?

 

To Those Who Care For Others…..

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On the day that many associate with love, I would like to send a HUGE thank you to those of you who help care for others.  Chronic illness puts an enormous strain on relationships and too many people who are stricken are eventually abandoned to continue their fight on their own.  When I read about situations like these, it literally breaks my heart.  No one ever wants to rely on someone else to take care of them, but life has a way of putting us in situations that we do not deserve or desire.

So to all you caregivers out there, Thank You again for giving of yourself so unshelfishly, for staying, for loving, for listening, for assisting, for praying, for loving and for encouraging healing.  You have no idea what a huge blessing you are for those of us lucky enough to have you in our lives.

Te quiero me amor!  

Calling authors who live with a chronic illness!

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One of my 2020 goals for simplychornicallyill is to review 6 books from WordPress bloggers who live with a chronic illness (or three).   Currently, I have two publications on my to-review list,  but I am searching for three more books to read this year.  My first review of 2020 was The Shadow Boxers by Kim Johnson & Karen Anderson and you can find my thoughts here.

So, if you are a chronically ill  and have published a book, or know of a WP blogger who is chronically ill, please send them a link to this post.  All I need is the title of your book and I will purchase it with my own funds, give you a review on this blog, and hopefully help bring more attention to your work.

Thank you in advance for the chance to assist another chronically ill author.

 

` wendi is author of 3 books and you can check them out here.

The Shadow Boxers – a book review

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I am super excited to kick off my 2020 book review series with, The Shadow Boxers – Fighting Fibromyalgia – Your Personal Journey by Kim Johnson & Karen Anderson.  My goal is to review 6 books, all written by individuals living with chronic illness(es).  If you are an writer and would like me to review your book, at my cost, please send me a message.

The Shadow Boxers was purchased from Amazon using personal funds and the review is completely my own.

 

My initial impression of the book is that I really liked the size.  It is not too big or small and fit in my hands perfectly.  This may seem like an unusual observation but I have purchased books that were just too small for my hands to hold easily and therefore caused pain or too big and akward to hold, again causing discomfort.  The print is also a good size, making the words easy to read.  Another bonus is the colors on the cover of the book are easy on the eyes creating another asthetic win.

Shadow Boxers covers all the basics of fibromyalgia, which I have to admit, although I thought I knew a lot about the illness, I still learned quite a bit.  The authors’ used not only their stories, but stories of others, allowing us to take a peek into the life of those who live with  fibromyalgia and how the illness can affect people in different ways.

But what I loved most about this book is that it is for you to write in.   You are an active part of the book, the main character, and with that honor it is imperative that you do your part.   Each chapter is followed by a one sentence prompt and it is a place for you to express your own thoughts and feelings, with enough space to write a rather lengthy commentary.

Although I did not write in the book, I did use the prompts to express my own thoughts and I found what I wrote to be quite insightful, I just substituted fibromyalgia for the main illness that I deal with.  Active participation is a MUST to get the most out of this book……..it is meant to be written in, to explore your own feelings, to express your frustrations and your inner most thoughts.  Once you have made your way through the book, it would be like having a productive counseling session and a whole lot cheaper.

Kim can be found blogging at I Tripped Over a Stone and I highly recommend you check her out………she is an amazing human being and force to be reckoned with!

 

Merry Christmas, Happy 2020 and Thank you from the bottom on my heart

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I would like to take this moment to wish all of you amazingly wonderful people, who use part of your precious time to visit me here at SimplyChronicallyIll, a very Merry Christmas and a safe and healing New Year!

Thank you for being such supportive, kind and encouraging people that allow me to see the best that humans have to offer.  It is such an honor to be part of the WP bloggers.

I will return in February when I look forward to seeing all of you again.  Please remember to be kind to yourself and each other, this world can be a brutal place and you may be the only kindness someone experiences.

 

“Imagine what our neighborhoods would be like if each of us offered, as a matter of course, just one kind word to another person.”

~ Mr. Fred Rogers

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books by chronically ill writers

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With 2020 just around the corner, I have been thinking about blog posts for next year.  One of my goals, besides keeping the Living Our Best Life weekly questions, is to review at least 6 books that are written by an author who is chronically ill.

Not only do I know what it is like to live with multiple chronic illnesses, I also know how much work goes into writing and self-publishing a book and the enormous amount of effort it takes to promote your publications.  So next year I would like to help out my  fellow spoonies and promote their work.

If you would like me to do a review of your book, that I will purchase, please leave me a message in the comment section.  The book does not have to be about  illness, but the author must live with at least one chronic ailment.

I look forward to reading your work!

 

~ wendi is the author of 3 books that you can view here  and all her books can be read FREE with KindleUnlimited

living our best life – giving

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During the holiday season, we tend to spend time reflecting on upon our past.  There is something about the music, the lights, the gathering of friends and family and religous services that can send our minds straight back to when we were a child or those special moments shared with a significant other.

Despite the societal push to buy, buy, buy, when I think about past holidays I rarely remember the gifts, but instead the emotions I felt during the celebrations.

I have always found it much more enjoyable to give gifts and watch a person’s face light up as the package is unwrapped.  As the old saying goes, it is much better to give then to receive and I have always believed this to be true.

So my question for all you amazing people this week is, What gift have you given that still makes you smile when you think about it?  

Thank you for taking the time to comment…..

 

” I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all year.”

~ Charles Dicken, A Christmas Carol

 

Celebrating the Holy Days on a Budget

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“Creating the best memories requires no money.”

~ Charlie Lee Austin

 

It is that beautiful time of year again when we celebrate Advent, the time we prepare our hearts and minds for the birth of Jesus.

Raising a family of 6 on a budget, I understand the stress that Christmas can create, a time when we feel the need to overdo everything, gifts, parties, meals, decorations…….but all of this costs money and can distract from the real reason of the season.

I have written a book that lists many of the ways my family has celebrated the hoidays while living on a tight budget –  Frugal Seeds 101 Ways to Celebrate the Holiday Season on a Budget.  It can be read FREE with KindleUnlimited and is available on Amazon in e-book and  paperback.

I would be humbled if you would take a moment to check it out, thank you.

 

~ Wishing all of you a very blessed Advent Season.

 

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