fear

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fear

seeps into your mind like an early morning fog,

slowly expanding into all the open trenches

unfilled spaces

finding places in the mind you didn’t know existed

enlarging to leave no room for productive thoughts

protecting its position like a vicious dog guarding it’s home

settling in like the dust in the carpet

seemingly unnoticed and determined to anchor down for the long haul

 

I am ready to clean house

sweeping it out, not under the rug

searching for all the hiding places

wanting to turn this into a childhood game i no longer want to play

i will find you

searching, one-by-one, the hidden rooms of my mind,

evicting the fear and pain

refilling the room with light and love and hope

 

slamming the door shut with a vengence

securing the deadbolt and allowing the love to expand to fill each and every room.

 

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The title of my blog gives away the fact that I live with at least one chronic illness.  Now, I don’t want to brag, but I actually live with several, and as interesting as it sounds, it is not a whole lot of fun.  Unfortunately I am not the only one in my family who lives with such a burden.  Every person in my immediate family lives with at least one chronic illness.

As a result of all of our medical bills, we have learned to live on a tight budget.  Over the years I have had to learn to be frugal and about 6 months ago I decided to put some of  my frugal ways into a book,  Frugal Seeds: 501 Ways to Make, Save or Stretch a Dollar.  It is now available in both paperback and e-book on Amazon.  The entire book can be read for FREE with an Amazon Kindle Unlimited membership.

You will notice it is written under a pen name.  This has been done as I working on additional books and I am determined to keep the lives of my children private.  Thank you for understanding.

 

 

Charities that will pick up your donations

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Sometimes we are just not able to personally remove all of the unwanted stuff out of our home.  It is either too heavy, too big, or there is just too much to physically put in a vehicle.  So, during my last decluttering session, I went on a quest and searched for places that would be willing to come and pick up all of my discarded treasures.

The quickest pick-up date was given by Goodwill and they were willing to come to my house and take all my stuff as long as it was on the first floor and was near an exit.  Done!  I set up an appointment via computer and they showed up on time and away my stuff went.  In fact, it was so easy I had them come back for more!  It felt so invigorating and freeing to let stuff go.  Less stuff = less cleaning = more energy for other activities.  Woohoo!

The organizations below are not available for pick-up in all locations, but I have provided links below for further information.  These are not posted in any particular order and is it not an all inclusive list.   Happy Spring Cleaning!

 

General household donations:

American Kidney Fund

Goodwill

The Salvation Army

Big Brothers Big Sisters

AmVets

Vietnam Veterans of America

Disabled American Veterans – DAV

Volunteers of American

Military Order of the Purple Heart

The Arc

St. Vincent De Paul

Lupus American Household Goods Donation Program

 

Cell phone/Smart phone/Tablet

Cell Phones for Soldiers

Secure the Call

Medic Mobile

1 Million Project

 

Boat donations:

Boat Angel

Orange Coast College School of Sailing and Seamanship

Chapman School of Seamanship

Angel for Hope

 

Motor vehicles:

American Children’s Cancer Foundation

American Kidney Fund

Wheels for Wishes

Kars 4 Kids

Volunteers of America

The Arc

 

Building Materials/Cabinets/Appliances:

Habitat for Humanity

 

Don’t forget to get a receipt for tax deduction purposes.  All of the stuff you move out of your house to make it more comfortable and enjoyable is going to help others also live a better life.  A BIG win-win situation!

 

wendi, under the pen name Charlie, is the author of Frugal Seeds:  501 Ways to Make, Save or Stretch a Dollar

 

Until next time…….

a home adventure begins…

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Now that you have decided to declutter your home, what is the first step you should take?  Well, that is a very good question.  From my many past mistakes, I can tell you that trying to work on the entire house at one time is not a very good idea.  You end up with the whole house torn apart, nothing gets completely done – or partially done for that matter – and due to your CI you can’t finish the project for weeks/months and now you have created a bigger mess than when you started.  This leads to more feelings of  frustration, disappointment, guilt and overwhelming sense of failure and who the heck needs that!  So, the first thing you need to do is to prepare yourself for the project.

Before you start make sure you gather the necessary supplies.  There is nothing more frustrating than to pump yourself up to begin a project only to find out you don’t have everything you need to actually start.  Here is my list of things I think you will need:  trash bags – not the huge 40 gallon contractor size bags as they will become way too heavy to lift.  So unless you have dedicated help from start to finish, even to the point of the trash being taken to the road or dumpster, go with 13 gallon trash bags or smaller.  Cardboard boxes, again smaller is better, you will need to be able to lift the box and it’s contents and dark colored markers to label the boxes.  Also gather paper towels or rags, a multi-purpose natural cleaner , gloves and a mask.  I always wear a mask when cleaning and vacuuming so I don’t inhale any dust particles.   All of the items I listed can be purchased at a Dollar Tree (at least at my local store) except for a natural cleaner, and boxes can be found in a Starbucks or grocery store dumpster.  Now label your boxes:  belongs in another room, donate, give away (to a specific person), consignment shop (if needed) and sell.  I would strongly caution you against making a box (boxes) for selling unless you have someone who is going to do it for you or at least help.  Selling takes a lot of time and energy and you don’t want boxes of unwanted stuff sitting around creating more clutter or find its way back into the general population.  Last but not least, a pen and paper to write down all that you are donating for tax purposes.  I have also used my phone to take pictures of donated items.

Now pick a week you hope to start, for example, the first week of April.  Why pick a week and not a specific date…….well, we all know that CI is unpredictable and again, you want to make it flexible to work around your needs and set you up for a win.  No need for giving yourself the extra pressure of picking a specific date and then waking up feeling blah.  If you feel poorly one day, don’t begin the project………you have a whole week to get it started.  Starting when you are having a bad day  will only give you bad results.

If a start week is too rigid for your circumstances, maybe choose a month you are going to begin to clean,  just don’t put it off too long.  If you keep pushing the dates out, it could mean that you are not really wanting to declutter your home.   But, I have found that watching a few episodes of Hoarders Buried Alive or a similar program is all I need to increase my motivation.

Now that you have gathered the necessary supplies, you need to set yourself up for a win and experience a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment for a job well done.  In order to do this, my first suggestion is to go small.  Make sure you pick an area within a room, like a closet or side of a closet if it is a walk-in, a desk, a bookshelf or one cabinet and work only in this designated spot until it is completely finished.  If you are like me, staying focused on this one area will be a challenge as you will discover things that need to go elsewhere…………don’t move on.  Stay on task.  Having the right supplies on hand will help with this.

Until next time…..