living our best life – one thing

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Hello wonderful humans, I hope today is treating you well.

My question for you this week is a simple one.  Although I try to keep things upbeat, I have learned that one of the ways to heal to the best of our ability is to accept the present situation and go from there.

So, my question for you today is,  If you were given the chance to do ONE THING that you are no longer are able to do, what would it be, and have you found a suitable replacement?  

living our best life – a perfect day

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I know for many of us, how we can spend our perfect day may have changed over the years.  Even if the activities that we can participate in have changed, we can still enjoy OUR lives to the fullest, especially when we are having a good day!  So my friends, my question for you this week is, “Describe how you would spend your perfect day?”

~ Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment.  I hope today is treating you well.  

living our best life – acceptance

 

 

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Hello wonderful human beings.

My question for you today is a simple one.  Although I try to keep things upbeat, I have learned through a lot of trial and error that in order for me to heal to the best of my ability, I must first accept my present situation and go from there.  So, my question for you today is, “What has been the most difficult thing for you to accept on your chronic journey?”

 

~ Thank you for stopping by to visit and your willingness to share part of your journey.  

 

living our best life – you

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Today’s question is short and sweet,What is one thing that you have learned about yourself since you have become chronically ill?”

 

~ Thank you very much for stopping by, reading, and leaving a comment.  Please know that sharing a small part of your world means a lot to me and others who read your reflections.    

The Chronic Pain Manual – book review

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I happy to be bringing you my review of, The Chronic Pain Manual – The really, real manual to pain by Nikki Albert.  This is my third in a series of six reviews I am doing to promote authors who live with chronic illnesses.  You can checkout my first review here and my second one  here.

I have start off this review with a confession.  I had a draft almost ready to go but decided to trash it and start over.  Why would I throw away a perfectly good post; because of all the craziness going on in the world at this moment.

Those of us living with chronic illnesses are on edge, worried about how this is going to affect those of us who are most vulnerable.  We NEED to take time to distract ourselves  from the constant bombardment of bad news.  There is no better way to combat anxiety  then with humor,  and Nikki serves it up in this book that can be delivered straight to your door!  What makes her book so refreshing is that it is written by someone who lives this life and therefore can relate on every level.  This manual not only makes fun of all the ridiculousness that surrounds chronic pain, bringing you laugh out loud moments, but also the sense of feeling understood, and this is a beautiful combination.

What made reading her book so ironic is that I finished it while in a 140 degree sauna, roasting my backside off, dripping in sweat, and feeling nauseous,  because hey, I have been told it was good for me………..(if you read the book, you will get the irony).

So, take a moment to check out her book on Amazon and if you can’t afford to purchase it, please ask your library to do so.  This book will not disappoint those who live the life of chronic illness, and for those who don’t, it will give you a glimpse into what it is like to walk this path.

Now please head over for a visit with Nikki in her neck-of-the-woods at Brainless Blogger.  Thank you.

  • This book was purchased from Amazon using my own funds.

 

 

~ wendi is the author of three books and they can be viewed here

living our best life possible – JUST SAY IT!

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Through all the years I have lived with chronic illnesses, I have felt the pressure to say that I was ok, even when I absolutely was not.  These pressures may have come from my internal desire to be well, not wanting to admit that I was sick, or living, if only briefly, in a fantasy world of being normal.  Or it could be a result of societal pressures, of people not wanting to know the truth of illness, or hear about others’ problems because it is way more fun to listen to happy stories.  Maybe it was because I heard, “you don’t look sick” one too many times.  Maybe I was tired to hearing people tell me how so-and-so was cured from some new thing.  I am guessing it is a combination of reasons.

I have always felt looked down upon when I spoke the truth.  That I was being judged for being ill, that somehow it was my fault, and that I was not working hard enough at healing.  Whether or not this was true, it was how I felt, so it was my reality.

There are days I want to open my back door, step outside and scream, “This sucks ass!”  Yep, I just swore, trust me, God can handle my truth, even if others can’t.  Who am I expecting to hear this?  My chickens?  My neighbors?  No, just every single person I have ever lied to when I said I was ok.

So, is there something you have always wanted to say about your illness, but have been too afraid?  Something you have wanted to scream to the world, yourself, or others?  NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

Sometimes is takes us being very, very honest with ourselves and others before we can even have a snowball’s chance in hell to begin the very long road to healing. 

 

Calling authors who live with a chronic illness!

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One of my 2020 goals for simplychornicallyill is to review 6 books from WordPress bloggers who live with a chronic illness (or three).   Currently, I have two publications on my to-review list,  but I am searching for three more books to read this year.  My first review of 2020 was The Shadow Boxers by Kim Johnson & Karen Anderson and you can find my thoughts here.

So, if you are a chronically ill  and have published a book, or know of a WP blogger who is chronically ill, please send them a link to this post.  All I need is the title of your book and I will purchase it with my own funds, give you a review on this blog, and hopefully help bring more attention to your work.

Thank you in advance for the chance to assist another chronically ill author.

 

` wendi is author of 3 books and you can check them out here.

living our best live possible – bad days

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This post is going to be different then what I have been posting recently, which has been my attempt at writing poetry.  I have enjoyed putting the words on the screen and deeply appreciate all the kind comments, deserved or not 🙂  so thank YOU!

This week I have been really struggling to come up with something to write.  This struggle caused me to reflect on why I started this blog in the first place.  My main purpose was to help others, who like myself, live with dreaded chronic illnesses.  When I began writing almost 2 years ago, I was so gung-ho, but the more I blogged and the more blogs I read, I became extremely intimiated by the high quality of writing and the vast amount of knowledge that so many others had, that I shyed away from my original intent.

So I decided that, at least for the near future, I will be asking those who grace me with your presence, to answer a different question each week, with each one relating to living our best life while chronically ill.

First, let me give Kim over at  I Tripped Over a Stone a HUGE shout out as she has inspired me to start asking questions.  Every week this amazingly beautiful soul asks her readers questions and the enjoyment I have received from answering and reading others responses has been surprising.  I encourage those of you who have not visited her site to please do so, thank you.

I realize that all of us suffer from different illnesses, affecting us in different ways.  But over the last 21 months I have come to realize that we share a lot more in common than not and we have so much to learn from each other.

So, without further ado, here is the first question:  How do you handle your very bad days?

For me, this is a tough one.  I have 4 kiddos at home and our situation is unique and one that I do not talk about as to protect the identity of my children.  But, even on my really bad days, more than likely I have to get out of bed.  So, I will drink some extra water, maybe be get into a hot shower, put on some loose comfortable clothing, try to drink a smoothie and take my supplements, and then pray for the best.  If I don’t have to get out of bed, I don’t, and I put on a movie, listen to an audiobook, YouTube, anything that does not require reading.

So, how about you guys?  How do you handle your bad days?  The more suggestions the better, you just never know who you may help.

 

don’t give up

 

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when the world seems stacked against you

and the wind is refusing to be at your back

 

lights appear to dim as you walk into a room

flowers wilt and die before your tired eyes

and those who are suppose to love you never seemed to care

 

these moments in life can overtake us

creating a sense of feeling unworthy, useless, spent

 

but you are so very beautiful and you are loved,

if not by those who fail to see your inherent worth,

 

remember you are cherished by the one who created you

and the beauty of life will reveal itself to you as

 

a new day will dawn

the fog will clear

and clouds will part

the rain will halt

the sun will shine

birds will sing

and flowers will bloom