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Hello wonderful humans, I hope today is treating you well.
My question for you this week is a simple one. Although I try to keep things upbeat, I have learned that one of the ways to heal to the best of our ability is to accept the present situation and go from there.
So, my question for you today is, If you were given the chance to do ONE THING that you are no longer are able to do, what would it be, and have you found a suitable replacement?
I cannot kneel on the ground so no gardening for me. I’ve learned to admire flowers from afar!
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that is a total bummer……….I am sorry you cannot garden anymore but so thankful that you can appreciate the beauty that surrounds you! Thank you so very much for sharing!
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It’s not so bad, and I like flowers from afar too.
Thanks Wendi, it’s always a pleasure
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I love your attitude! 🙂
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Thanks my dear. I find it easy to go with the flow. No fun fighting with our lot.
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love this!!!
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💖♥️❤️
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Be pain free. I’ve learned to tune it out to some degree.
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YES! being pain free would be a dream come true wouldn’t it?! I have prayed this for you tonight.
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Thank you. 🙂
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my pleasure!
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So many things I wish I could do. At the top of my list is to travel to Brazil. not suitable alternative but I have been video chatting with friends there
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Traveling to Brazil sounds absolutely amazing! I am so very sorry that this is not something you are able to do at this time in your life but I have prayed for your healing this evening………
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Thank you for praying 🤗🤗🤗
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it is truly my pleasure.
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Find a home, and, not yet. 😏
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I am so very sorry Ana………I cannot imagine the frustration this must cause you. I have prayed for you this evening that you will find a home. Thank you for sharing your heart….
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Wendi, you are such a blessing to this world, and to me. Thank you for your loving prayers.
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it is such a pleasure to pray for you Ana……..and thank you, I am humbled by your kind words.
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I love you, wendi
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awww……..you have no idea how much I appreciate reading your words Ana! I am sending gentle love right back to you.
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Mmmmmm… 🤗
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hmm. . . I don’t know. There are many things I can no longer do, but don’t think that I could prioritize one over another.
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thank you so very much Sheryl for stopping by and commenting. i hope today is treating you well. 🙂
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I need a new back, a new spine.
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I am so very sorry………back pain can be sooo awful and I am sorry you experience this too. I have prayed for you this morning……….and I hope today is treating you well. Thank you for stopping by and sharing.
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I was actually better in the morning. I sprained my ankle today, running after my son in the playground. I’m all swollen, and hurting. Don’t ask.
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OH NO!!! those suck! I am so very, very sorry……..I have said a prayer for complete and quicker healing…….
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Thank you, dear. I thought it was broken, so I guess I was lucky. It’ll take a while, though.
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I remember when I fell on ice walking to the mailbox and I thought for sure I broke it and went to an immediate care. The doctor came in and told me that it was too bad I didn’t break it because it heals so much faster than a bad sprain………….so hopefully you are a quick healer! I wish I was a neighor and I could help you out!
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Oh you’re so sweet. Fingers crossed.
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you will heal quickly!!! 🙂
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Michael cannot go to school, Wendi, even though it has reopened here, he is high risk so he must stay home. He is sad as he misses his friends.
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I am so very sorry Roberta. I know what it is like to watch your child suffer and it is heart breaking. I have prayed for your son, and you, this morning and I wish I could do more. Would he appreciate receiving cards from people around the world?
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Hi Wendi, that is a lovely thought but it is difficult to send cards to South Africa because our postal system is in turmoil at the moment. I really appreciate your kind comments and prayers. Hugs.
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I am so sorry to read this………if it changes and you would like him to receive cards, let me know – i’ll get the call out!!!
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Thank you, Wendi. Hugs.
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prayed that today is treating you well…….
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I would have a long chat with my deceased Dad..I talk to him a lot now in spirit but I’d love to do a long walk on the beach with him in real life and ask him so many things.
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What a beautiful thing to wish for and I am sure your dad feels the exact same way. I can see you and your dad walking on the beach together happily chatting………..and I hope someday you can do this with him………thank you so very much for sharing………
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Thanks for such a great interactive post Wendi..hope you have a beautiful day.
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awww………bless you for your kindness!
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to be honest, dancing! Unable to do it coz I don’t go to any dances … and no dance partner …
Love walking and cycling which are other forms of exercise but still miss the dancing 🙂
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I love this answer Kate! 🙂 Thank you for sharing this and I have prayed that you will be able to dance once again!!! 🙂
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I think I will … thanks Wendi 🙂
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🙂 🙂 🙂
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ride my bike. And no, there are various solutions can get me partly there but nothing takes me all the way.
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I am so very sorry that you are not able to ride a bike anymore………and I am sure being told to try different things that you know won’t work is very frustrating. Thank you for your willingness to share………..I hope today is treating you well.
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find my love
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Beth…………what a BEAUTIFUL respone and one that sounds like it would make a wonderful blog post!? 🙂
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I miss my long walks…especially the ones I loved taking walking along the seashore here. Smelling the refreshing salty sea, the wind in my face, maybe getting my feet wet in the lapping water, admiring the expanse and beauty of the Norfolk skies, getting annoyed at the sand in shoes, hehe. Of course, I miss being pain-free.
What is yours? 🙂
Love to you and yours xox
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Oh my goodness, those walks sound heavenly and I can “see” why you would miss such beauty and physical sensations………and yes, pain free sounds down right amazing too. Are you able to get to the beach at all?
Thank you for asking Faith…….I think I miss being able to walk, hike, exercise for long periods of time………it was part of me and I miss it so very much!
I hope today is treating you well, or at least behaving itself!
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I’m mainly too hot 🔥 today Wendi. Thanks for asking. I hope you still have things that you really enjoy. You’re so kind I hope you have many caring people in your ‘real’ life xo
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thank you so very much for your kind words and thoughts! Being chronically ill, you lose a lot of people along the way……but, I am thankful for my husband and children – all who do their very best to support me.
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I am glad to hear that.
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Ps. I didn’t answer your question… There are times I can walk a little way but it’s very painful because of damage to lower spine and hip. I have to park right near the beach. So, yes, I’m able to walk to the shore that way, but have to come straight back xo
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pain sucks so much life out of you, doesn’t it?! I am so sorry to read this………..but I bet the creatures and water is just as excited to see you and you are to see them when you are able to visit! 🙂
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Actually the virus has stopped many from meeting, going for a coffee or meal. Just to ‘chat’ again face to face and ‘feel’ their energy (and not via a mobile phone) would be glorious 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
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I wish the very same for you Mark! It has been so difficult not to be able to get together and feel that human connection that we all so very much need. Thank you for sharing……….I hope today is behaving itself for you!
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Today is being delightful, the temperature has dropped into winter finally. It took the winter solstice to do it and there is supposed to be a light snowfall up in the mountains from here.
I just wish I had an open fireplace to revel in with a marshmallow or bit of toast even, now that would be heaven 😂 🤣
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My entire life I have always had such a hard time imagining the other side of the world experiencing the opposite season. Today it is 90 degrees F and it’s so amazing to think that you may see snow.
A fire pit in the cold sounds absolutely wonderful………..
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Ok, how about a swim in a cool mountain stream followed by a drying cool breeze and a nap under the tree’s after a satisfying barbecue lunch? Sold? 😂 🤣
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that sounds amazing!!!! 🙂 I have never been in a cool mountain stream but I bet I would LOVE it and who doesn’t love a barbecue? 🙂
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To heal we have to face and accept all of our emotional pains and physical pains the root cause of them unless we can accept what has happened, why and who. You cannot heal you just cannot close the door on the past and start from here as you have some heavy baggage in tow behind you. We have to peel the layers away it is like an onion and slowly we free ourselves. Some healers believe in waving a wand and so many are eager to follow this nonsense. The work is long many years it takes to cleanse ourselves of our past.
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thank you so very much for taking the time to leave such beautifully helpful comments! I deeply appreciate it and completely agree! It is a long process to heal from our past……..
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Thank you for sharing!!.. while I may have to make adjustments in some manner, I have yet to find something that I am unable to do… 🙂
“The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible.” – Joel Brown
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You always have such awesome quotes!!! I am thrilled that you are able to do all you want, that makes me so happy to read! Thank you for stopping by and commenting………..I hope today brings you smiles. 🙂 😉
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First thing first, good to have you back. Interesting question, one thing I not able to do playing competitive sport – and my replacement is watching games 😄
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awww……thank you so much Shantanu…..I appreciate your kind words.
I am so sorry that you are not able to play competitive sports……..I am sure this is something that you miss dearly……….Thank you so very much for sharing and I hope your team(s) win this season. 🙂
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My absolute pleasure. Thanks so much for your wishes 😊
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I miss being spontaneous. My wife and I are lucky to still be able to do most things, but it takes planning and preparation. It would be nice to have an impulse and be able to follow it.
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Being Spontaneous is such a big deal and hard to give up and I am so sorry that this is missed in your household…………..if it is anything like mine, it takes so long getting everything ready that you are too darn tired to do the thing you wanted to do! 🙂 Sending you and your wife love and peace!
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I wish I could give a dollar to a beggar I met once. I did not have time that day. I did not give him anything.
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What a beautiful heart you have! Thank you for sharing this with us and reminding us to make time to do the small things as they tend to be the most important. God bless you for blessing others!
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Wendi, thank you so much for your beautiful comment. It humbles me beyond words. God bless you too for blessing others and for being you.
xoxoxo
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You are so very welcome……and thank you so very – very much!!! 🙂
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❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️
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It’s hard to narrow it down. Maybe being able to watch movies again without vertigo hitting me. My hubby misses sitting with me and sharing movies together.
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Oh Vivian, I am so very sorry that you cannot share an movie evening with your beloved. I have been through this before and it sucks! No matter what was on tv, it made me ill. This may not work for you but this is what I did. We picked a movie, I laid in bed next to hubby and made sure my eyes could not see any part of the screen. I listened and if there was some interesting sceen without words my husband described it to me. Was it perfect, absolutely not……..but it was still a date night we could share together.
Praying for you my dear!
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That’s a great idea. Once my hears heal, I should try that. My hubby turns the volume up too loud and with bad eyes/ears watching movies is now torture. This happened in Dec. After going over a mountain…..I haven’t been the same since. I’m grateful for this idea though and will definitely try it out. ❤❤❤❤❤
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Oh NO! Vivian! There is so many questions I want to ask you. I have also had this issue and it is now mostly resolved………but I am going to pray about this too for you. Would your husband be willing to turn down the volume for you? I know this is a hard question to ask when you feel as if you are always asking others around you to make concessions.
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Awwww, you can ask me anything. He is hard of hearing so we are both got messes over here!😆😂 Yes, I have given up asking….I just go away not to be aloof but for survival. You get me Wendi and I appreciate it!! ❤❤❤
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sending you love and sending up prayers for you this afternoon!
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MUCH love back!! ❤❤
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yay! 🙂 🙂 🙂
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I hope you don’t mind me popping in here Wendi, but I tried something a little different in two ways for the vertigo. Mind you, cause and effect are many different things.
One was my posture, as soon as I sit or lay it puts pressure on something and stirs it up (you should see how I have to sleep 🙂 ), even to the point that if it gets really bad I watch it standing up. And I watch all television through my computer monitor (there is a tv card you can get for your computer), so that I could change the refresh rate which eased that horrible feeling you get after watching for a while.
Just a thought 😀
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thank you for this Mark!!!
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very good question,one that requires some thought.
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thank you! i look forward to reading your thoughts. 🙂
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Being a stagehand. I loved it. I could probably do it again now that my health is sorted out somewhat, but I haven’t tried to break back into it. Produce is all right as a replacement, but it lacks the diversity that being a stagehand did: different venues, different talent acts, different types of events, different touring crews, different departments… Being a stagehand was an amazing job, and I miss it terribly.
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I bet you were absolutely amazing at your job Cynthia! Thank you so much for sharing this with us……….it sounds as if you couldn’t get bored with a fast paced, diverse job. I hope you are able to do this job again too!
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Well, if I can’t, I hope I can find something that keeps me as intrigued as event production
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absolutely! I wish the very same for you 🙂
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In the grand scheme of things it’s pretty minor, but I wish I could wear contact lenses still. My eyes can no longer tolerate them. I miss them for things like swimming and scuba diving mostly, but the truth is I haven’t had occasion to dive in years. I’ve done other things. My life has gone in other directions. And when I swim, I accept that I can’t see very well. (I’m very nearsighted).
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I am so very sorry that you are not able to wear them anymore. I can’t imagine how frustrating this is for you and who doesn’t want to be able to see when they swim?!! Thank you so very much for sharing, I have prayed over your situation………miracles still happen 🙂 🙂
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Oh dear Wendi, thank you for this important question. I so miss getting together with our families. Even before the quarantine began, I was severely limited compared to the way that we were used to just “checking our schedule, and marking a date.” This season is so different. It makes me appreciate those times we were given all the more now. I hope you are feeling the Lord’s comfort with you. Blessings and love to you dear friend. xoxo
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I am so very sorry that you are not able to get together with your families as often as you use to. I can’t imagine just how much they must miss spending time with you! I hope you receive, if it is a blessing to you, visitors are your home who provide love, support and kindness.
I hope today is behaving itself 🙂 for you……..much love and gentle hugs!
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What a great question. I miss the physical aspects of life – walking, dancing, playing tennis, golf, swimming. I can walk short distances, and I chose to do that in nature than a store, so that’s how I compensate when I can. I can still move my body to music – just no fancy foot work, lol.
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it sounds as if you were also a very active person……..I am so very sorry that those things cannot be part of your life anymore. I know it can be so difficult to adjust to a new, less active, normal. Thank you so much for sharing VJ………I hope today is behaving itself for you and it is filled with music! 🙂
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Thanks Wendi. I am happily exploring my creative side so that is compensation. Hope your day is going well too.
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well your creative side is absolutely amazing! 🙂
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An interesting question. For me, there’s nothing I need. For someone close to my heart, me being to take some of the weight, would be the one thing. Blessings!
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Why I am I not one bit shocked by your response Warren! 🙂 I immense love for God, your family, and others, shines through in every post and comment. Thank you so very much for always having such a wonderful take on life……….and they way you walk through life, I KNOW that you help so many people. God bless you!
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You’re welcome, God bless!
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I like tgese thought provoking questions, Wendi! Because of my brain fog, I can no longer write anything of length. It was always my dream to writr historical fiction and fantasy, but those days are over for me. I content myself with writing shorter stuff, from blogging to poetry to essays and short stories. It’s not the same, but as long as I keep writing, I’m pretty happy!
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I am sooo sorry Michelle. It is terrible that so many of us with a CI or three must give up on so many dreams due to our illness. Brain fog is such an awful symptom to live with…….and at times scary. I have to admit, although I believe you, your writing is fantastic and I would never know that this was an issue for you……….thank you for being such an awesome advocate! 🙂
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Thank you so much for saying that. I worry a lot about getting things wrong. I’m insanely careful with research and getting things down right away. Some parts of my brain fog are much better after all the antioxidants and such. At least until I flare, anyway. My ability to recall words and communicate is generally better, but my memory is very short-lived, and I can’t hold on to new info well. I have even found myself writing the same post or essay twice, within days of each other simply because I have no memory of having done it yet. A book would definitely be too much to juggle. I’m a real life Dorie! I can’t even figure out how to navigate an area I’ve lived in since 2008 without GPS! I really should write a post about it and all my mnemonic devices!
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I would LOVE to read a post on how you deal with brain fog and memory issues…….it is a terrifying thing to deal with and I have found myself driving locally and not being sure which roads to take to get where I need to go…..I still have young-ish kids and days can be so overwhelming……….so…….if you feel up to it, I’d love to read your thoughts on this.
I hope today is being good to you Michelle! 🙂
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I’ve got it on my topics list! Such a great idea. I hope you’re fairing well in these difficult times, Wendi. Hugs!
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You are so sweet Michelle, thank you!
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I wish I could still play basketball with others. I can shoot the rock alone in my driveway, but it’s not the same.
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I am so very sorry that you are unable to participate in group sports! I know this must be very difficult not to hang out with others and play a sport you love. But, I am happy to read that you still haven’t completely given it up! Thank you for your willingness to share part of your journey……….I hope today is being good to you.
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Thank you! No I haven’t!
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What a very good question Wendi..
Do you know I had to think very hard on this… And that shows me that there are not that many things I cannot do anymore..
The one thing that did cross my mind… Is when I am gardening, I can no longer jump up from bended knee without the aid of my kneeler to lean on…
And if that is all that I can’t do.. then I am very blessed
Sending Huge hugs your way Wendi… Hope you and your family are doing ok my friend… Sending lots of love and well wishes your way ❤
Sue ❤ 💖🙏
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I LOVE reading this Sue!!! 🙂 🙂 It makes me so happy to know how much healing you have done over the years! 🙂 Thank you for sharing and providing hope and guidance. Much love, peace and light…..
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Much love and my pleasure Wendi…. ❤ 💖🙏
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🙂 🙂 🙂
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I would love to travel again like I used to back in the 90’s. It was safer then and people were nicer to Americans. My replacement is watching YouTube walking tours from other countries. Those are so fun to watch and the way they are shot it is like you are walking right there at that moment. As always, you ask the best questions. You and your family have a beautiful week.
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Thank you so very much for taking time to comment……….travel is something I always thought I would do when I was older and now it is not something I can easily do……..You are absolutely right about being safer years ago………and I LOVE that you watch walking tours on YouTube! I had no idea that exsisted and there are a few places I still dream about seeing. I will check it out, thank you so much.
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Acceptance is a wonderful thing. It helps me find ways of moving on and finding alternatives. Living in the here and now. What helps me is the way I think, which is a gift from my mother. I wrote about it in a post called This Gift.
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what a beautiful gift your mother passed on to you! 🙂
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Yes it is. It’s the result of many ideas and ways, and helped and still helps me change the colours in my life. Hope it’s OK to share here. http://anitaelise.com/2017/10/07/this-gift/
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🙂 absolutely! I am thrilled you would want to share this here. Thank you for leaving a link. 🙂
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Dearest Wendi, I would love to be able to swim again. We tried 3 different times with pool therapy. Now I actually fear… for health reasons… but I would love to in a heartbeat if God allowed my health to do so.
As for a substitute… puzzles, walking, listening to music are things I enjoy, but spending quality time with Jesus… THAT is the medicine for me! ❤
Me and God love you, my fellow human being. 🙂
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🙂 swimming is such great exercise and easy on the joints, I can understand why you would miss it and I am sorry you are unable to to swim at this time. I love that you have found other things to replace it and your time with The Lord fills you and your spirit. Thank you so very much for sharing Gail!
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I am grateful God allowed me to know the joy and peacefulness, even the fun and relaxation of swimming. ❤ But I am far more grateful to be able to spend time in His presence no matter where I am, or whatever I do. As long as I have Him… He IS my joy, my peace, and even my fun and relaxation! Maybe we'll get to swim in heaven! 🙂 God can do anything, and only He fully knows heaven! ❤
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absolutely! He can do everything and anything! 🙂
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Amen 🙂
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