Now that you have done an awesome job decluttering areas in your home where you have little or no emotional attachment to the items, it is time to move on to a more difficult task. Your next step is to choose areas where you have moderate attachments to the items, which in my case is clothing and books.
Although I am a minimalist in my day-to- day clothing, I have still held on to some “special” articles……….a few dresses I wore to friends’ weddings and other pieces of clothing with special memories. I have kept them all with a desperate hope that I would be able to fit into them again someday, despite it being over 15 years.
It is healthy to keep these items? Probably not………….every time I see them I immediately feel like a complete failure for not being able lose the weight needed to fit into the clothing, even after all of these years. So, I have to ask myself, even if I become skinny again, is this something I would wear? I most cases, the answer is no. So, we need to be honest with ourselves. We need to love ourselves enough to let go of the past so we can move on. I realize this is a much scarier proposition for those of us with CI as many of us live in fear of what the future may hold. But here is one area of your life that YOU are able to have complete control. While cleaning, you are able to choose every single item you keep in your life. You choose what you look at every day, what to use to create a peaceful living space that provides a place for rest and relaxation. There is no way that living in clutter is beneficial to healing nor is keeping items that make you feel bad. So, you can do it. Dig deep, surround yourself only with things that bring a smile and realize you are in control.
………..until next time.
You are a superhero! (no matter how crappy you feel)